I know first hand what It feels like to experience a loss of a child. I've had 2 miscarriages and one ended up with me having to have a D&C surgery. Both were completely different experiences and I was in a different time in my life when they occurred. Lately, I've been seeing more women choose to expose their experiences with the horrible reality of miscarriages. I just want to give a few tips that helped me get through.

1. Allow Yourself to Grieve

Grieving is a natural and necessary process. Give yourself permission to feel all of the feelings associated with this experience.  The pain, sadness, bitterness, and anger. Don’t try and fight the grieving process because it can resurface later! Take time away from work, social activities, and other obligations if you can so that you can start the healing process.

2. Be Kind to Yourself

Avoid blaming yourself or feeling guilty for the miscarriage. Remember that it is not your fault. Treat yourself with compassion and practice self-care activities that bring you comfort and joy. Also know that this may take time. Don’t let those negative thoughts creep in and lie to you.

3. Seek Support

 Reach out to your partner, family, and friends for support. Talking about your feelings and sharing your experience can help you process your emotions and feel less alone. Consider joining a support group or seeking professional counseling if needed. Try not to push people away but inform them if you need space and time to process.

4. Connect with Others

Joining a support group or online community of individuals who have gone through a similar experience #C54C7Acan be incredibly comforting. Sharing stories, advice, and support with others who understand can help you feel less alone. You may find comfort helping someone else through their journey and being an advocate for others on your social media channels. The more we talk about this touchy subject, the more people feel less alone or taboo.

5. Be Hopeful for the Future

While it may be difficult to see now, remember that there is hope for the future. Many individuals who have experienced a miscarriage go on to have successful pregnancies. Allow yourself to be hopeful and open to the possibilities that lie ahead.

When trying again, pay attention to “triggers” and know when to take a break! If you’re starting to recognize signs of your mental health depleting or negative feelings towards others success is creeping in, then speak with your partner and see what next steps may be best for the both of you may be.

Wishing you well on your journey! Don't wait til you get pregnant to start living, start now and when that time comes, it will be that much sweeter! 

                                                   xoxo, Laneice